stop telling mentally ill people that no one is gonna love them if they don’t love themselves that’s actually really fucked up and you need to reconsider why you think someone who’s been brutalized into hating themselves doesn’t deserve love
That’s a really black and white way of looking at it. Sorry, victimizing yourself whenever you get even the slightest dose of reality isn’t going to help you, your mental illness, or your romantic life.
When you put zero self worth in yourself, you push that emotional baggage on the partner. Suddenly, they’re carrying the emotional responsibility of loving you on your behalf. You rely on them for your self-worth. It’s kind of like holding them emotionally hostage.
A healthy relationship should never be a co dependent one. It’s not anyone else’s responsibility to “complete” you or “fix” you.
God forbid things don’t work out and you break up. This is how people become suicidal after the end of a relationship.
And honestly, anyone who looks at this phrase and immediately goes to the self-victimizing role of “Oh, so you’re saying I don’t deserve to be loved”, twisting their words in order to deflect all self-responsibility and guilt trip a person into their viewpoint, is a gigantic fucking red flag.
It shows a lack of emotional maturity, objective reasoning, or a will to better themselves. It means, anytime we have a disagreement, you’re going to use your mental illness as a crutch in order to to play the victim role, and I’m sorry, I don’t have time or patience for that, and neither do most people.
when you don’t do a warm up and go straight into lineart and your hand does the thing
Thats a sign of inflammation of the wrist called carpel tunnel . I had surgery because it got so bad I couldn’t draw anymore.
Yikes D8.
That’s why it’s so important to do stretches and draw with your whole arm (ok, arguably hard with a tablet versus a big gorgeous easel) and etc but I forgot today bc I am a moron and it was great
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people warm up to draw? like… how?
not an artists but climbing hand and lower arm exercises;
trying to find more and better diagrams for other stretches but yeah it’s super important if your gonna be using your arms a lot.
Adding this important video for all the artists out there, take care of your hands ♥
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