yea most of those “cut toxic people out of your life 😷” people are like total assholes who have no conflict resolution skills and think not catering to them = “toxic”. like you shouldnt feel shame in dropping genuinely awful people but like its actually not good or healthy to just drop people left and right for any little thing. and like if youre finding yourself surrounded by “toxic” people all the time that you constantly have to do the whole self righteous cutting off performance with, consider that maybe YOURE part of the problem here.
and besides like… cutting off genuinely bad people irl isnt easy like at all unless your only contact is via text? so idek WHAT these people are talking about
since a lot of you have tragically poor reading comprehension: cutting people off is ok. everyone needs to do it from time to time. sometimes its even necessary for your safety. however, its not a solution to all conflicts, thats just immature. thats where the mindset of “you dont owe anyone ANYTHING drop people at a moments notice if theyre bad for you!!” becomes harmful. you DONT exactly “owe” people, but relationships of all kinds are two way streets and if youre not willing to put in effort then your friends dont exactly owe you their time and energy either and you cant get mad at THEM for that. like you cant go around with zero conflict resolution skills causing drama left and right and then lament about how everyone around poor innocent you is “toxic”
i have repeatedly watched people destroy their friendships by being bratty assholes, then getting self righteous and calling other people “toxic” for being mad at them, then dumping them. cutting off people now and then is normal, and some people are bad enough that they fully deserve being dropped without even any discussion, but if its happening constantly its time to examine if youre part of the problem
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